Adjusting to a New Phase of Life: Embracing Change This Fall

As we step into the cool embrace of fall, who’s excited for the change in season? The crisp air, the cozy sweaters, and the warmth spiced drinks make this time of year so special. There’s something magical about the way the tree changes color, the fall decorations lining porches, and the fields dotted with trees hinting at the rich palette of autumn. Fall’s perfect weather calls for long walks, enjoying the beauty of nature, and capturing those "Instagram-worthy" moments—perfect for sharing with friends.

But for us, this fall marks not just a shift in seasons but also a major transition in life. Adjusting to a new routine, a new place, or even new people can be as exciting as it is daunting. Both Marit and I are in the midst of navigating these changes.

I (Marit), currently living in the Netherlands, moved an hour and a half away from my parents. Yet, even within that small distance, I am adjusting to a whole new phase of life. Each province, in the Netherlands, has its own culture, and I'm learning what it truly means to be an “adult.” Between paying bills, grocery shopping, and balancing a full-time job, adulthood is hitting hard, but I am embracing it head-on.

As for me (Leah), I’ve made a much bigger move—1,200 miles from Missouri to Connecticut. An 18.5-hour drive across the U.S. to the East Coast has brought me to a new world with different scenery, a different pace, and a whole lot of unknowns. Moving to a place where you don’t know anyone is scary. Any move forces growth, and mine is no exception.

Growing Through Change

One thing we have both realized through the moving experience is that moving, no matter how far, forces self-growth. It’s an opportunity to reflect on who you are, what you need, and how you can adapt to your surroundings. But it’s not something anyone should have to do alone. Having support, even from a distance, is crucial for a smooth transition. Whether it’s friends, family, or even a community group, a social circle helps you navigate the newness.

And while opening up to new people can be intimidating, it’s a necessary step in making a new place feel like home. Making friends takes time, but you might be surprised at the friendliness you’ll encounter when you give people a chance.

Cultural differences are also something you don’t always expect when moving within your own country. While Missouri has its Midwestern "charm", Connecticut has its own unique vibe that I love, but still getting used to. Adjusting to a new culture, even if it’s just a few states away, can be hard. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed by the little things, from how people communicate to how they dress or interact socially. Sometimes, the smallest differences can make the biggest impact, but with time, they become part of your new normal.

Embracing the Overwhelm

It’s important to remind ourselves that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. Whether it’s something as small as finding a grocery store or as big as learning a new job, change can be stressful. The key is to be patient. Adjusting takes time, and you should not expect you to have it all figured out immediately. Lean on those who are there to support you, and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

So, as we welcome fall and all its beauty, we learning to embrace the changes in our lives with the same appreciation we have for the changing of seasons. This season of life, like autumn, is all about transformation—moving forward, shedding old habits, and allowing room for growth.

Let’s all look forward to the new opportunities this fall brings, and remember, no matter how big or small the changes we face, we’re all growing through them.

Do you have any tips for adjusting to a new place? Share them in the comments below!